Life as a single parent due to divorce isn’t easy. You have to do what is best for you and your children, but this can be a challenge since you don’t have anyone there to lend a hand. Not only do you have to deal with the demands of caring for the children, you also have to deal with your ex over custody matters.
Finding methods to keep your patience intact can take trial and error. Try to remember what works so you can use these methods again.
Keep things in perspective
You have to decide what is important and worth fighting for. There are many issues that might only be nuisances. Small issues can often be ignored as long as the kids are safe, happy and healthy. You can’t control everything that happens between your ex and your children, so focus only on the major issues.
Take a step back
It is easy to become so focused on solving issues that you lose track of your goals and what is best for your children. Think about what options you have and how they will impact you and the kids. Take a step back from the situation, even if only for a few minutes, to calm down. This can prevent you from reacting in the heat of anger.
How are your children?
Are your children reacting positively or negatively to the situation? This can help you determine how to proceed. Finding the balance between addressing the matter and controlling the impact on your children can be challenging.
Don’t let your emotions rule you now. Instead, use your head and a rational mindset to come up with a plan. Additionally, you can set a good example for your children by finding ways to relax when the tension gets high.
Health matters
Stress can have a negative impact on your life, so relax and decide what is truly important. Getting upset can cause your blood pressure to worsen. You may notice headaches and other symptoms that can make your life more difficult. The stress can also cause you to feel more emotional and may lead to mental health troubles.
It is a good idea to have your conflict resolution methods covered in your child custody order. You and your ex will refer to these guidelines as contentious issues crop up.
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